I’m the only woman on an otherwise male IT team. During my review I told my boss I felt the difference sometimes. He replied, “I probably shouldn’t say this, but yeah, it’s really not the same having a girl* on the team. It’s just not as much fun because we can’t talk** the way we used to when it was just us guys.”
* I’m 42
** I curse like a sailor, and tell dirty stories with abandon. Another programmer is an evangelical Christian who prays before every team luncheon. So What The Fuck can they say in front of him that they can’t say in front of me ?!?!?
I’m already listening to his rants about how in marriage the man should lead and the woman’s role is to follow so it ain’t gender sensitivity stuff they are holding back on.