From Anonymous:

My professor singled me out, because I was special, obviously. He would talk to me for hours. It wasn’t until later that I realized it was because I was the only one stupid enough to listen to him going on and on about himself. His anger started when I began having my own scientific ideas that were not a reflection of his. It got worse when I wanted to participate in a project that he was not involved in, which I gave up, to prove to him how much I loved him. The abuse started when I wanted to go to a grad school that he did not go to.

One comment

  1. Dear Anonymous,

    I just wanted to leave this comment to let you know that you are not alone. I had a very similar experience with a professor, to the point that when I read this I was absolutely stunned. In retrospect, my experience was also entirely about his ego — I listened to him talk about himself, talk about his work, etc, and mistook his self-indulgence for compassion. He would lose interest, though, when I wasn’t exactly like him, or when my academic goals weren’t exactly aligned to his interests. I’ve often felt like that experience was so singular no one would ever really understand it. If you’ve felt that way, please know that it isn’t true. Thank you so much for sharing.


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