At back-to-school night, I listen to my child’s teacher describe her teaching philosophy, class activities and so on. This woman is a veteran, 28 years of experience, speaks with poise and authority. She is caring and thoughtful, but definitely commands the room. At one point I catch myself thinking, “She’s a little bossy.” Then I feel like an ass. Because I teach too, with half the experience, less empathy and more bravado. My student evaluations consistently say things like “commands the subject”, “an expert”. Never bossy.