At a conference, out of nowhere, and without prior conversation, a well known professor and researcher told me that my husband would appreciate it if I gained weight. I was very sick with anorexia nervosa at the time. I was too shocked to say anything back. My husband since left me, so I guess he was correct. I highly doubt he would have told me the opposite if I had been overweight. He also told me I would never be successful with my voice. I haven’t had the confidence to do a conference oral presentation since.