“It’s because you’re young and approachable”
Each year, as new (often female) trainees enter our psychology training program, I notice that they all immediately address female faculty by their first names and male faculty by their formal titles. I have had trainees address me by my first name followed immediately by addressing a male colleague by his formal title in the same sentence (“Hello X and Dr. Y”). I brought this up to my male manager/mentor, and he suggested that this is occurring mainly because I am younger and more approachable/accessible to the trainees. Right. It’s because I’m “cool.” I have begun pointing out these behaviors to the trainees – we as women are sometimes unwittingly or unintentionally perpetuating a cycle and a power differential.